New Year Resolutions of a 25 Year Old Career Girl

If you’ve every wondered what New Years Resolutions a 25 year old career girl makes or you’re 25 and want to see how you compare, then you’re on the right blog.  Not to be cocky or better than thou but I’m kind of obsessed year round with self improvement and making a point to treat people kind (unless they’re mean then I’m a complete jerk with no regrets). I still wanted to keep with the tradition of brainstorming ways to make the new year better than the last so here’s my list of how I plan to make 2015 more fun and less stressful than previous years.

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Me celebrating New Years Eve 2014

1. Don’t Buy New Outfits I’m the worst about justifying clothing purchases because I feel like I NEED it for an event/outing/date whatever. In all reality I’ve worn the same clothing sizes since 2009 and having bought 2-3 outfits every month that I NEEDED over the past 5ish years and the absolute last thing I need is more clothing. I’ll tell you what I do need- a time machine to give old me an old fashion ass kicking for wasting so much money on clothes and less on travel. Will I get the urge to buy sundresses bikinis and fringe crop tops I technically don’t have the body to wear in 2015? Absolutely I will! But I’m a little wiser and less materialistic than Sheila of the past and now I acknowledge outfits have little to do with great memories.  I’m going to work really hard to remember that statement the next time I get the urge to buy clothes that I don’t need.

2. Pay My Bills Early I’m typically a procrastinator and wait to the last day to make payments but I have the money available at least two weeks in advance. I’m going to start putting my checks in the bank the day they are written and paying my bills as soon as statements are ready.  The more stress I can control in my personal life the better. Stress makes you fat, wrinkly and tired and in 2015 I want to be beautiful, energized and youthful.

3. Take More Videos My parents were the fancy parents on the block in the early 90s with a camcorder and they recording all the important stuff. Birthdays, Christmas, Easter and family from out of town visiting. Pictures are cool but they’re so staged. I love how candid and unpredictable video is. My parents captured so many awesome one-liners and farts from my childhood. One of the best things about video is that they last longer than people do so even when my pets, friends and grandparents have died it’s been nice to go back and look at videos because in that moment they’re still so real.

4. Less Selfies More Pics with a Purpose I took a gazillion selfies in 2014. This year I want to try and share more pictures with a story and less “look at me I’m cute” type pics. I’m getting too old for that. I’ve got lines in my forehead now and it takes me like 10 mins to find a good angle. I’d rather just leave 10 mins earlier for wherever I’m going to have more time to make jokes or be punctual in general.

5. Keep my alcohol and sugar intake under control I admit it- I currently consume too much of both and it’s horrible for my health. I’d like to trade my nights downtown for coffee dates and sweet tooth for healthy snacks or more exercise.

6. Delete Tinder Let’s forget that I ever downloaded it and never speak of it in 2015- Capeesh?

7. Discard Toxic Friendships I’m not being a last resort for anyone in 2015- man or woman. You’re my friend 100% or not at all. I’m also taking notice of friends who are only there for me when alcohol is involved or when they think I can help them get ahead. Now friends that read this don’t get huffy and puffy and think this is about you- if you read my blog you’re a super good friend! I’m talking about people that pop up every few months and after we hangout I’m like “Ehhhh I wish I would have stayed in” or “God how can they treat other people so horrible”.  To be honest, I get super lonely sometimes. In the past I’d be so desperate to hangout with anyone really just to get out and talk and I started surrounding myself with people I don’t want to have things in common with. They weren’t criminals or anything but they used people and lied about stupid things and were only there for me when it was convenient for them and that’s not cool.  Those kind of friends also tend to never want to do anything except eat and drink and I’d rather go on an adventure or get creative. The last half of 2014 I started getting more into my crafts, exercise and “me” time and it’s been great for my soul. I hope I can stay focused and not relapse in 2015 😀 And for those wonderful friends that I have and that inspire and challenge me I want to be the best friend they could ever ask for and inspire and challenge them in return. If anyone else has any suggestions for 2015 or wants to post their resolutions please do so! I love getting comments- makes me feel cool 🙂

7 Reasons Why Crafty Girls are Better

I’m always seeing articles pop up in my newsfeeds about how blondes, fit chicks, nurses, moms etc. are better and I’m here to represent the crafty women! So here you go, 7 reasons why girls who craft are the best. girl with scissors 1. our imagination/we’re creative which inherently means we’re more fun and hilarious. Part of the reason kids are so much cooler than adults (and maybe even happier?) is because they look at a cardboard box and they see a fort, a microwave, a cave, a house, a boat- all sorts of things. As an adult you look at a box and you see trash/recycling and wonder why it’s still sitting there. Crafty girls look at the box and see it with the eyes of a child. It could be exactly what they’re looking for to build their set for a stop motion (which by the way I’ve made one and it’s here) or a doll house for their nieces with some gift wrap, popsicle sticks and glitter. Our imagination goes beyond crafting. Get on a hot topic in pop culture or current events and wait for the witty and clever remarks to fly. Our imagination gives us quite the sense of humor.

2. We’re independent (Female MacGyvers) or tutorial queens if you will- there’s no situation we can’t get ourselves out of. If we need to hang a picture, change a light bulb or put together a bookcase we don’t need to call a guy to come help us. You see, one does not simply finish a craft without running into a problem. Sometimes you run out of glue or need a phillips screw driver when you only have an allen wrench so you improvise and get really creative at problem solving. We’ve navigated through sticky situations and it doesn’t scare us. We learn, laugh and/or start over. Failure isn’t an Eff word for us.

3. We own our own tools. Unless you inherited your grandfathers wood shop and all it’s contents our tool box probably puts yours to shame. Also, for our girlfriends we know how to sew! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to help sew buttons back on and adjust store bought Halloween costumes. Anytime my friends need a minor alteration or something fixed they come to me to see if I can do or have what they need. Crafty girls will save you money and-

4. We’re smart with money. We look for coupons and wait for things to go on sale because we can’t fathom spending 10 bucks on a ball of yarn. With a 40% coupon from the Sunday paper well- now you’ve got yourself a deal mister Michaels or misses Hobby Lobby. It translates into other areas of life, too. We don’t spend ridiculous amounts of money on Forever 21 accessories that make us say “I can make that” or “that will fall apart by the third time I wear it”.  Instead of us having a headband in every color of the rainbow that we may last a few months we’d rather make our own 3 neutrals that can go with any outfit and make it last for years.

5. We use Pinterest which typically means we have 1,000 recipes we’re dying to try. As someone who was raised on hot pockets and lean cuisines and as an adult travels a lot for work, I can say there’s a lot of appreciation for people who can make home cooked meals. Even if its just 6 ingredients dumped into a crockpot I love when someone (or myself) cooks! I’ve ate at some snazzy restaurants where the cheap meals are still over 40 bucks and I’d take a Pinterest meal anyday over those. Cooking is tricky with all the measuring and chemistry and if someone is willing to cook for you  it’s kind of a big deal. They are putting themselves out there knowing the food could completely suck. Fortunately, us craft girls are used to the possibility of failure and kind of don’t care so we will try and do anything in the kitchen!

6. As avid Pinterest users we also have Pins for workouts and make up so we probably are attractive You’re welcome. #armcandy

7. We’re busy and don’t need that much attention (if we make time for you then you’re pretty special) I don’t know what it is about being in my mid to late 20s but men act like they’re doing me a favor by hanging out with me sometimes or worse try and give me the ultimatum “COME TO THE BAR RIGHT NOW OR I’M NEVER SPEAKING TO YOU AGAIN. THIS IS YOUR ONE CHANCE” No joke I’ve got texts like that from at least 3 guys in the past year and it makes me gag. Between knitting, sewing, painting, blogging, cooking, making jewelry, and other crafty things I’m not desperate for anyones attention. I keep myself occupied. In fact, when I step away from those hobbies to go out and spend time with people it means I really like them because I LOVE making stuff. Another plus is that my broskis that like playing video games and having guys nights out instead of me being whiney and pouty that I can’t come  I’m like “insert hand gesture yes!” That’s the perfect night for me to set aside and go to town on some crafts.

I ended on an odd number. If your OCD and like even numbers add your comment below with another great reason girls who craft are completely awesome 😉

My thoughts While I Run

Do you want to know who I am? I’m the girl that goes to get frozen yogurt in her running clothes. To be completely honest, I don’t even always workout before I go but I like to trick people into thinking I’m super active so they don’t judge the size of my yogurt cup. However, when I do run I always look down at my Nike Running App and feel good about the 300+ calories burned and immediately wonder if any of my friends are up for ice cream. Can you relate?

Maybe I’m not as weird as I think but just as a test here’s an infographic of my thoughts while I run that somehow lead to ice cream at the finish line.

Oh, and another weird confession- sometimes my thoughts are hashtags!

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Leave Pinterest Alone!

As a single 25 year old woman Pinterest is my other half that inspires me to be a sassier version of Martha Stewart. Unfortunately, I have half the time and a 1/8 of the living space therefore I need a place to store all my good ideas, quotes and articles electronically.

Sure Pinterest makes me feel really, really poor when I look at ideas for houses and weddings but Pinterest has also  helped me solve a lot of dilemmas in the past 3 years:

check mark box Quotes that make me feel less bad about not having my life together at 25 (or any age really)

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Those are just a few examples. I use Pinterest all the time for so many different things. One does not simply spend less than 30 mins on Pinterest at a time. You can’t have all the great tutorials, memes, outfit ideas and recipes without a few haters so here’s 3 common complaints and my plea to leave Pinterest alone!

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“Pinterest is for Girls” No way! Anyone can use Pinterest. Some of the funniest memes I’ve sent to my guy friends I pulled off Pinterest. Pinterest is also great for a guy who wants to impress his girlfriend with a thoughtful date or gift from one of her pins (#yourwelcome) Pinterest can also be a guy’s best friend because it has great tutorials for fixing up a home and neat money saving tricks. Sure it’s girl-friendly, but once you get through that top layer of pink weddings, 100 different ways to curl your hair and shirtless, sexy guys making breakfast there’s plenty of content for men to enjoy.

“I’ve already seen everything at Weddings on Pinterest” I worked in the wedding industry when Pinterest became popular in 2012. Within six months I started hearing complaints that weddings weren’t original anymore because everyone was copying everything off Pinterest. “Yeah  that’s cool but I’ve seen it before”. Why are people looking at weddings like new product launches? “Yeah the wedding was great but I saw someone else on Pinterest who already decorated with whiskey barrels.” This is silly. If you went to the wedding with a new york fashion week attitude instead of embracing their legal love story you may want to find some new hobbies on Pinterest because you’re clearly bored. The wedding is all about the bride and groom and if she wants a chalk board sign that says “Pick a seat and not a side” or burlap runners that have been pinned and used a million times before her let her enjoy those. People need to calm down about calling people out on their “Pinspiration” at weddings. Just shut up and eat the cake.

nailedit#Pinterest Fails Pinterest Fails are what happen when someone tries to re-create the same fondant cake as a baker with 10+ years experience or a picture by a professional photographer without a well behaved child, decent camera or editing equipment. Sometimes people don’t want to try anything off Pinterest because of the funny mishaps. They think it will be a waste of time, frustrating or embarrassing.  Don’t be scared of failure. No one does something for the first time and completely nails it so if its something you truly like to do experiment a few times and find out what works for you. Also be sure and start out at the appropriate skill level. If you’ve never made a dessert before in your entire life start out with 3 ingredient brownies- don’t go straight for the creme brûlée. Pinterest is great for inspiring and learning so embrace the trial and error.

 

 

 

 

So now can we all agree Pinterest is an awesome way to teach yourself to do practically anything and isn’t specific to females? And for the love of God don’t ever criticize a wedding for doing something you’ve seen done before. Instead find a way to compliment the couple on how they took the idea and added their own twist to fit their personality. And if at first you don’t succeed try and try again. Remember Pinterest is our friend not our enemy<3

 

How To Be a Good Roommate

 

Being a good roommate isn’t nearly as easy as it sounds. You’d think as long as you’re nice and cool to be around everyone would love living with you. Nope. It’s way more complicated. You’ve got to think about how different we’ve all been raised and the different opinions on acceptable ways to live. Without further ado let’s get straight to the point and discuss how to make sure you find that the balance between being sloppy and a Sheldon.

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Discuss Cleaning Expectations It’s important to know your roommates’ idea of what is acceptable. Some people wash dishes immediately after a meal while others wait until the sink is full. Some people think it’s okay to remove a trash bag and leave it until the next time they go outside while others think this is unsanitary and it needs to be taken out immediately. Before you move in sit down and talk about how you were raised and your cleaning habits. Come to a mutual understanding of how the two of you will work together to take care of the place. Maybe you clean individually as you go or wait and clean as a team. Just make sure both of you have an idea of what to expect out of the other as far as cleanliness.

Discuss Visitor Expectations The size of your living space and whether your roommate is a light sleeper will have a great impact on visitors. I once lived in a 1300sqft apartment with 3 other girls all on one level with our bedrooms connecting to the living room so parties during the week were a little unacceptable, however, when I graduated college I lived in a 2000sqft, 3 story condo with two other roommates and someone could throw a party in the lower level and no one would ever know it til you got up the next morning and the trash can was littered with crushed Bud Light cans. It is also smart to discuss the frequency of visitors (don’t end up having a live in significant other not contributing to the bills), safety concerns of strangers in the apartment (I once had a roommate invite a random guy from the liquor store to a party which was not cool) and along with safety concerns address who is allowed to be in the apartment by themselves or have a key. It’s a cruel world we live in. I’ve had a friend whose had checks stolen from her best friend since childhood so be very careful who you give access to your home without supervision.

Open Lines of Communication Don’t let things that bother you stay bottled up because this will lead to an emotional explosion. On the opposite end if your roommate discusses concerns with you without raising their voice or using curse words make a point to hear them out. If you truly feel they’re in the wrong refer to the expectations you discussed prior to moving in. Never ever ever no matter how mad or annoyed you are start cursing and yelling. Maintain some class. Explain how you feel and why you feel what you feel and what can change so that you don’t feel that way. Once you share your side give the other person a chance to speak. You can’t control how they react but if they curse and yell just let them get it out of their system and brush it off. You did what you could to improve the situation. If you can’t come to an agreement I would begin to look to for ways to have someone else take over your lease.

Don’t leave notes or send texts when you’re upset Written communication is hard to interpret. SOMETIMES CAPS MEANS I’M ANGRY but SOMETIMES CAPS MEANS I’M EXCITED it’s kind of ridiculous how easy it is to get it twisted. Some people are also sensitive and need to see your face and hear your voice to gauge the scale of the issue. What you may think is a small request may come off as super bitchy to the other person especially if they are already having a bad day. So maybe you should just breath and invite your roommate out to dollar slice night at the local pizzeria so you can talk and joke at first then ease into what’s going on around the house.

Pay Your Part of the Bills On Time If you have a roommate it’s safe to assume neither one of you are making that great of money or else you’d probably have your own place so write your checks for bills on time. Stressing over money is the worst and without your check the other roommate may not have enough in their account to pay the bill. Don’t get slammed with an easily avoidable late fee.  Also, if the bills are in your name let your roommates know the amount due as soon as you get the bill so they can plan accordingly. People get busy and if you wait til the day before to tell them their half of the electric bill was 80 bucks you may put them in a bind.

Those are five items to get you started on the path to being a good roommate. What would you add to the list? You never know I may end up being a roommate again one day and I’d love to know what other advice you have to offer in the comments 😀

Things to Do Instead of Texting Your Ex

I don’t care who did the breaking up, whether you broke up with them or they broke up with you. I don’t care what the break up was blamed on. No matter what the breaker uppers says, the real reason you’re not together anymore is because one could not see themselves having a future with the other. So, it’s time to move on and start a new chapter. Not texting your ex is hard especially if it just happened. The first quiet morning your phone doesn’t ding with a “Good Morning” text you might just cry. No doubt you’ll still be raiding the Chive and come across memes your Ex would love, and you’ll think these be a great ice breaker to gauge their interest in a reconciliation- Don’t Do it!! Loneliness and post break up anxiety comes in waves and you may find yourself feeling panicked and thinking  now’s a good time to text them asking how they are Don’t Do it!! I’ve never seen anything good come out of maintaining a “textship” with an ex. You’re amazing and your time is valuable so spend it engaging with people who have a positive impact on your life. Don’t text your ex! Do some of these things instead when you get the Urge 😉Mr T pointing

1. Post on instagram– All those pictures, memes and cute selfies you want to send to your ex to “make them want you back” are just going to make them feel like they’re #winning because if they still wanted you they could have you. Whether you know it in that moment or not you deserve better. Exes have a tendency to keep each other in their back pocket. Even if they have no intentions of hanging out or reconciling they’ll still text you to ask how you are.  When they do this they are bored and testing to see if they can still get a response. You deserve better. All your friendships and relationships should be with people who genuinely care for you. When you have the urge to send your ex images just post those to your Instagram instead. I actually have done this in the past and it felt good because someone still (virtually) laughed with me and that’s all I really wanted.

2. Write- Journaling is good for the soul. I promise you it feels amazing to take all those crazy, mixed emotions out of your head and lay them out on paper. If your ex hurt you there’s a chance you’re going to want to either A) hurt them back by pointing out what a horrible person they are and how they mistreated you or 2) get them to apologize for hurting you. There’s a popular saying on Pinterest that Life Becomes Easier When You Accept the Apology You Never Got” and it is absolutely true. Besides journaling you can write your ex a letter detailing all the hurt and pain they caused you. Once you have the letter written seal it up or leave it in a drawer- definitely don’t mail it. It just feels good to process emotions and get them out of your system.

3. Paint your nails or detail your car- I’ve got some men in the audience so I made sure to include something you could apply to your life as well. I don’t know very many people who keep up with their nails or car 100% of the time, so when you get lonely and want to text your ex focus your energy on something that makes you feel good about yourself and your presentation to the world. Even when you’re a mess on the inside you can still look put together for the world, and manicured nails and a clean car are two small pieces of the puzzle.

4. vent to your best friend- Best friends are awesome and another form of soul mates. When you want to text your ex I guarantee you your best friend will be there the listen. Try meeting up with them for coffee or a beer. There’s something about spending time with a best friend and getting things off your chest with them that makes you feel better. Probably because of all the laughing you also tend to do with your best friend.

5. cook or bake- I suggest these hobbies because they’re time consuming and you can never truly run out of ideas. Not to mention it’s rewarding to your belly. You can create a Pinterest account if you haven’t already and get TONS of inspiration. I think I have like 300 recipes pinned but I’ve tried less than 10.

6. Hike–  Get outside!  You may be surprised to find that there’s waterfalls, fire towers or gorgeous overlooks in your area that you didn’t even know existed! Hiking is also the perfect distraction from texting your ex because there’s a good chance you won’t have cell service anyway. It’s also a form of exercise and you remember what Elle Woods from Legally blonde said about exercise, right? Exercise releases endorphins and endorphins make you happy. Happy people don’t text their ex 😀

7. Use Google- You may convince yourself you HAVE to text your ex for information. Information like directions, a song title or advice but chances are you can find whatever you’re looking for on Google. Everyone knows what happens when you get on Google, anyway. You may start off googling “Taylor Swift Song Lyrics” but 30 minutes later you’re reading a news article about a cannibal in Milwaukee while watching a YouTube video of a corgi shaking it’s butt to a rap song. Texting your ex has long left your mind.

I purposely left 8,9, and 10 off because I’d rather get my readers opinions and help in finishing the list. Blogs are so much more fun when they’re interactive. Leave your comment below numbered appropriately. In fact, if you have a really good idea and 8, 9 and 10 are already done go ahead and we’ll work towards 11, 12 and 13 😀

Stop Saying These Things to Single Women

First and foremost there has to be a million other more interesting things to talk about besides someone’s love life especially if they don’t have one. This isn’t about people who try to get to know you (strangers making small talk). I’m directing this to co-workers, close friends and family. For example, when someone from one of these groups bring up my love life I’m just like why didn’t you ask me about my dog, my job, uh I don’t know that meme I posted on Facebook that got 20 likes- really anything besides my love life. Oh, I know why. You’re setting me up for you to A) offer a sympathy statement or B) brag about how awesome yours is.

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1) “You’re so pretty I don’t why you’re still single” I feel like when someone says this they feel sorry for me? There’s no need for that- I’m having fun with all this free time. Plus, being pretty doesn’t automatically make me dateable and the perfect girlfriend- it’s just a perk.

2)” What’s it like being single? I haven’t been single in X amount of months/years.” Was that really necessary? I’m 90% sure these people just want to brag because the longer you’re in a relationship the more impressive it’s suppose to be. Being single is having ZERO obligations to compromise and share your life with someone else. Being single is good for the soul as it allows you focus on your personal growth and experiences. When the weekend rolls around I get to focus on what I want to do and spending time with my friends. There will come a day when I’m not single I’ll be 100% up for sharing and compromising but for now it’s nice to have “me” time. Let’s not forget I get a big bed to myself (well, actually I’m one of those weirdos who lets their dog sleep in the bed- still plenty of room) and I can dress as comfy as I want and be silly in public joking around without having to worry about impressing or embarrassing someone else.

3) “Do you think you’ll ever get married?” Slow down speed racer I’m 25 sure I will. Within the next year- let’s hope not because that probably means I got knocked up and went into panic mode and completely tossed all common sense and logic aside for the sake of security or having a “real family”.

4)” What kind of wedding will you have?” I have no idea. I mean, sure I have cool ideas or day dreams if the day comes, but those thoughts are personal to me. I’m not the kind of girl to plan everything out without considering what my future husband might want. I’m certainly not wasting my time by starting a “One Day” Pinterest board with wedding ideas. Some women can do these things but not me. I’m flighty and my style and taste are constantly changing. Once upon a time I wanted a Hello Kitty wedding, ya know?

5) “Hey my brother has this friend that does X for a living that I think you’d really like!” I have this theory that you shouldn’t assume single people are lonely and looking. If they’re lonely and looking and need your help meeting someone they will come to you. It’s probably better if you let this happen because meaningful relationships are complicated. This isn’t high school anymore so chances are being attractive, nice and driving a nice car just don’t seal the deal anymore in a good mate (and if they do you’re doing it wrong!)

6. “Are you gay?” That’s such a rude, grandma thing to ask. I just don’t even know how to cleverly snap back to that one.

7. “When will you date again?” When I meet someone I really like and we become best friends and then we think “Hmm. Let’s be together” I’m just as clueless about when I’ll date again as when I’ll die. I’m focused on the present and making the most of it.

Sure you can ask if someone is seeing someone and when they say no just drop it and talk about something else. Don’t feel sorry for them, don’t pry and don’t offer up advice if they don’t ask for it.